As I've shared before, my husband and I are heading to Nova Scotia, Canada to live on his family's farm of 105 acres. When we decided to get married we discussed where we would live, since I lived in Washington State and he lived in NS. We dated for two years long distance before hand. I told him I'd be willing to move after my youngest daughter graduated high school.
So for the last 6 months we've been steadily getting ready to move. My mom has not been real happy about my decision, she acts like I'm moving to a 3rd world country. She's been saying negative things about our plans, ideas, things I'm reading about. I am leaving a job / career that pays me quite well, I love the people and clinic that I work in, I'm just a couple minutes from home and my kids & now grand daughter (born June 7th) live here. I never wanted a career persay, I went to school to support my husband (ex) so he could then go to school. I got to be a homemaker for 12 years before that and loved it.
My husband has promised me that I can come back here to visit regularly for extended periods of time. I have health issues - fibromyalgia (12 years), depression, hemachromatosis (recent dx) and we are hoping that moving from the Puget Sound area in the convergence zone will help with the Fibro, along with eating healthier local / freshier foods.
That's the background history of it all, if you've gotten this far. My daughter recently graduated from high school mid June, we are set to move the end of September. My mom came out for the graduation and the birth of her great granddaughter. She was here a week with constant negative opinions, I've been depressed ever since she got here and left.
I shared about wanting goats and drinking their milk. She kept telling me that goat milk is gross and goaty tasting and the cheese is aweful. That I'll get TB from it if I drink it raw, "you know there are reason they pasturize milk, etc. " Which I know the reasons, but also have heard about all the great benefits you receive drinking it raw.
That farming is really hard work... duh!
That for someone that is talking about eating healthier, we still eat a lot of processed foods. Which I never said I didn't to her. We are growing our own vegetables organically right now, not using pesticides. Trying small changes so that hopefully these changes keep taking place. She'd rather have pesticides used because she don't want no bugs in her food, she's not worried about herself, more concerned for her great granddaughter though. My agruement, "But if you use pesticides still now, baby will eventually get them because they don't just go away."
So at the end of this week, I blew up at her. She didn't just say these things once, they were repeated constantly through out the week she was here. Now I'm doubting all my decisions and fear of change has gotten in my head.
Thank you for reading this and letting me rant a bit. When I talk to my husband about this he gets frustrated with her because he knows that I was afraid before but we continually talk about it and he reassures me that everything will work out, that I just need faith. Then she comes in an in a week I'm pretty much back to square one.
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Congratulations! So excited for you!
UPDATE: Today is my last day of work at my clinic, with mixed emotions I say farewell to my career family of 14.5 years. I received a beautiful send off dinner with several people showing up that work at different sites of the clinic. A couple of cards with well wishes & we will miss you along with an Amazon gift card.
November 6th we fly out from Seattle heading toward our dream, arriving in Halifax on November 7th. Having a few glitches with flight arrangements; my cats don't have a flight yet. There is always plan B, which we have had to implement regularly throughout this process of moving.
Once we arrive in New Ross we will be working with my husband's Aunt producing christmas wreaths for wholesale. We also will be getting the barn ready, for our Nigerian Dwarf goats that arrive November 30th, as well as making sure the fencing is reenforced.
One more step closer to the dream...
Huge congratulations! :) Keep us posted. It's so fun to see someone's dream unfold. :)
UPDATE: It's here!!! Just got the call from him at work, he just signed for his passport today from a FedEx delivery. I'm in a state of disbelief and total excitment, we weren't expecting the passport for at least another week. We've been in a holding pattern for the last few months due to paperwork and not knowing when things would finally allow us to start moving foward.
It's official, my last day of work is November 1st and we should be flying home to Nova Scotia sometime the week afterward. Now to solidify travel arrangements, book flights for us, the cats and dogs, etc...
So in about a month I'll be calling New Ross my permanent home.... :)
As a side note... I'll be getting my first Nigerian Dwarf kids on November 30th. A doeling and her twin brother (wether). Which I've been very excited about and worried that we wouldn't be home in time, but now no worries!
dear ranter (addressed this way, because the sweet Lisa stumbled into a succumb moment and will be right back up), Oh how we have those moments in life, when 1 (or 2 or) lay into us with THEIR mindFulLness/Heart & their influence crowds into our lives.....Typically during times of great transitioning in our lives. Possibly (likely) they're facing fear and uncertainty concerning OUR lives changing they allow that inner turmoil to thrust outward negativity to us --- rather than coming forward with support they could offer (& because they love & care about us...probably regret later not having provided support).
In our home raw cow milk was served over the many years (reason: aim for best nutritive support and least negative health impact for the family). I could not drink it (clogging). Only of late has raw goat milk been produced for the kitchen (& soon it became only myself benefiting... as every one else is gone!). Where I could not drink cow milk -in comparison (& quite a surprise!)- drinking raw goat milk daily has not affected me negatively and I have only experienced a 100% health benefit (& to mention: it is possible that the enamel of my teeth are re-mineralizing -- it feels so).
May you have many hugs, kisses and grand support along your journey and settling into your new home and life.
Sandra Hess, CPM
Heartland Midwifery
Fresno, Ohio
https://www.facebook.com/HeartlandMidwife
Congratulations!!! Keep us posted!
Lisa Cotter said:
So in the process of moving out of our rental house into my friends house for the remainder of our time here.... my citizenship certificate ARRIVED! I'm so excited and relieved.
Now waiting on hubby's passport renewal and we might actually be heading east by mid-october!
I'm sure that is very frustrating! But those are just delays, nothing that says you can never move, so you are still heading towards the dream. The speed might be slower than planned, but you are still heading in the right direction. So you will get there! :)
Update on our move... We are packing our house up this month and moving into my friends house starting Sept 1st. We extended our leave date to the beginning of October due to paperwork issues and my boss needing to know if I wanted to be on the work schedule for September. So we've extended again into October due to continued paperwork issues. My husbands canadian passport expired, the paperwork has been rejected twice now due to the paperwork being damage when removed from the envelope and the passport pictures weren't acceptable for Canada. Canada has also recently changed their passport form, so we sent new pictures and application. Information was entered wrong and again the pictures were unacceptable. So again we need to resend both the paperwork and new pictures. We are going to a special photo studio to get these pictures done so there are no mistakes again, it's going to be more expensive but at least we will know they won't get rejected. My proof of citizenship is sitting in limbo somewhere as the government employee's in Sydney strike. We really thought we had sent everything in a timely manner but it looks like things are working against us. It's been so frustrating and we know that we probably won't be able to leave when we wanted to. I still have this microscopic hope that everything will work out on our time. If the paperwork doesn't arrive on time we've decided to stay until the end of the year. I'm so disappointed...
Several of my coworkers are disappointed for me but happy that I won't be leaving right away. It makes me feel good in that respect. Also if we stay until the beginning of the year I get to see my grand baby longer and I'll be here for her first christmas. We can also bank extra money as we won't have rent or utilities to pay. So there are positives to us staying and I'm trying to focus on those.
Sometimes I worry that all these problems are a sign that I'm not suppose to move.
Since I have gotten my goats, I have been a lot happier. Smiling more and I feel that I am the reason that the goats are happy and healthy. Like my grandpa said, " your their life source and they depend on you", that made my day. I used to be seriously bipolar, but ever since I have gotten them I feel so much better, people say I seem happier than before, which I feel is true, so long story short, I'm happier with my animals, that I take care of.
Here's a picture when they were younger:
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